Sex.Love.Power.: The intimacy podcast for powerful women & those who love them

Help Yourself Draw a Line

March 10, 2022 Season 1 Episode 50
Sex.Love.Power.: The intimacy podcast for powerful women & those who love them
Help Yourself Draw a Line
Show Notes

There are some serious ways that our partners can be stuck. Many clients and members of my audience have approached me with concerns like, "I just need him to get a job and nothing I've tried has worked" or "Her drinking is really concerning to me, but it's not concerning to her so she's not about to get into recovery.” It's very reasonable that your partner might feel terrified to make a particular change and you may be the only voice or the loudest voice asking them to change. Today's episode is about how we get our partners on board with something that we really want, but that perhaps you've spent years trying to get through to them about and it hasn't worked. 

In this episode, I’ll walk you through:

  •  How to get clarity about what you’re willing to give in order to have the relationship you envision
  • My experience of drawing a line with my husband and how it transformed our marriage
  • How to start the conversation about your partner's behaviors in a way that can benefit you and your partner
  • Finding a “Plan B” to underscore for you what’s really going on (and how that’s different than a threat)
  • Understanding the objections that may arise when you confront these behaviors


E.g. Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples' Circle on Mighty Networks.

“I assure you, you were built for more. If you are living in a way that is hobbled by your partner’s under-functioning or under-living, they deserve and you deserve so much more.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

Hot Moments in This Episode:

  • How you can call your partner to begin their “hero’s journey”
  • The negotiating tactic you can use to get clarity
  • The three-stage way I communicated about my partner’s outbursts
  • Some sentence starters that can help you begin a productive conversation


I hope that you get to a place where this kind of invitation is just a working part of who you are as a couple; that you keep leapfrogging into new possibilities. erotically emotionally, career-wise,  This is a never-ending road, not of difficulty and pain, but of potential and joy, growth, freedom, and pleasure. And that's what I want for you.

If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you and you want to create the love, sex, and aliveness you desire with more ease, I invite you to enter a deeper relationship with me, through private coaching or my group mentorship program. Either way, you get powerful tools, conversation cheat sheets, meditations, and my loving and skillful attention every month, so your capacity for the pleasure and joy you want grows, continuously. CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.