Why Therapy Didn’t Get You There

You've tried therapy before, and it didn't get you where you wanted to go. Maybe it helped. Many people report to me that it got them on the right path, but not really to their goals. My goal is to help couples not just reduce the “itching, burning and swelling”- the immediate pains that they're facing when they come to me- but truly create a great relationship. And, truly, what many of the couples that come to me want is to go from a good really solid relationship to a great relationship, which I call Legacy Love. Today, we're going to talk about why couples counseling often doesn't get couples to that place, and how to make sure that next time you do make an investment in your relationship, it can get you where you really want to go.

As you listen to this episode, you'll hear about:

• The point at which most couples seek counseling 
• What I’ve learned about couples counseling from my own experiences in therapy
• What you need to be doing between your sessions is to get the results you want
• The importance of putting the conversation about the relationship in the context of trauma, power, patriarchy, and colonization
• The difference between treating the symptoms and actually building towards our vision

And more. 

E.g. Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples' Circle on Mighty Networks.

“Our rates of normal marital mediocrity can be chalked up to not having a high enough vision and a deep enough devotion to being one another's person.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen


Hot Moments in This Episode:

• How to “shovel while the pile is small”  [3:28]
• The “twofer” that gets in the way of building Legacy Love in therapy [4:17]
• How the patriarchy affects your relationship that a therapist may miss [11:08]
• What I hope your next investment in your relationship looks like [18:17]

 I hope this episode gives you what you need to seek the support that will help the two of you keep going all the way to the shining, emotional and energetic aliveness that you really want in our relationship. And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.

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If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you and you want to create the love, sex, and aliveness you desire with more ease, I invite you to enter a deeper relationship with me, through private coaching or my group mentorship program. Either way, you get powerful tools, conversation cheat sheets, meditations, and my loving and skillful attention every month. CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.