“How can I talk to my (aunt/brother-in-law/husband/neighbor) whose views on social justice/race/health care/women’s rights/LGBTQIA rights are so very different from mine and I want to shout?” In honor of the impending holiday season, todays episode distills some what I’ve observed about how friends - mostly female or nonbinary - deal with ME in my ignorance about privilege around gender, race, religion, sexual orientation, education level, and class. I never intended to be racist, heteronormative, cisnormative, or classist, but privilege has that effect: it truncates the humanity of those who have it. Listen in to learn how to stay engaged when you feel outraged.
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“No one thing changes everything. We have to be the change today, and we have to stay the change tomorrow. We have to continue to bring the energy that we want to see in the world. And we have to remain engaged in the conversation."
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen
"The world is half right and half wrong. But that doesn't mean that half the people are 100% right, and the other half are 100% wrong. It means each one of us individually is 50% right and 50% wrong.Find out what is 50% wrong in yourself, and what is 50% right in your neighbor, and the world moves together again."
-Carl Jung
Hot Moments in This Episode:
Choose how you show up based on who you want to be 02:08
Self-care for difficult conversations 03:55
Why flipping out won’t bring the change we long to see 05:20
The importance of taking the long view 05:57
Recognize your privilege and use it to be the solution 08:39
Never Condescend 09:09
Listen with curiosity 11:09
Engage as if your life depends on it 13:43
Stick up for others 15:40
I am so grateful for the chance to support you in “figuring things out” whether on your own or with support and structure to guarantee your success. I’m thrilled you’re committed to cultivating your aliveness in love and sex and that we’re engaged in this conversation. It is my greatest joy and privilege. I hope this episode has helped you find new ways to get support and perspective for your love and sex challenges.
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