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Reaching Across The Ignorance Divide

November 19, 2020 Michele Lisenbury Christensen Season 1 Episode 14
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Sex.Love.Power.: The intimacy podcast for powerful women & those who love them
Reaching Across The Ignorance Divide
Nov 19, 2020 Season 1 Episode 14
Michele Lisenbury Christensen

“How  can I talk  to  my (aunt/brother-in-law/husband/neighbor) whose views on social  justice/race/health care/women’s rights/LGBTQIA rights  are so very different from mine and  I want to shout?”  In honor of the impending holiday season, todays episode distills some what I’ve observed about how friends - mostly female or nonbinary - deal with ME in my ignorance about privilege around gender, race, religion, sexual orientation, education level, and class.  I never intended to be racist, heteronormative, cisnormative, or classist, but privilege has that effect: it truncates the humanity of those who  have it.  Listen in to learn how to stay engaged when you feel outraged.


This episode spills:

  • The secret to engaging with people who baffle you
  • When we’re very aware of how wrong someone is, how to focus on what's right
  • Why letting go of today’s interaction helps today’s interaction go better
  • Think YOU are not the problem? Think again

And more. 


Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Secret Society on Mighty Networks.


“No one thing changes everything.  We have to be the change today, and we have to stay the change tomorrow.  We have to continue to bring the energy that we want to see in the world. And we have to remain engaged in the conversation."

-Michele Lisenbury Christensen 



"The world is half right and half wrong. But that doesn't mean that half the people are 100% right, and the other half are 100% wrong. It means each one of us individually is 50% right and 50% wrong.Find out what is 50% wrong in yourself, and what is 50% right in your neighbor, and the world moves together again." 

-Carl Jung


Hot Moments in This Episode:
Choose how you show up based on who you want to be 02:08
Self-care for difficult conversations  03:55
Why flipping out won’t bring the change we long to see 05:20
The importance of taking the long view  05:57
Recognize your privilege and use it to be the solution 08:39
Never Condescend  09:09
Listen with curiosity 11:09
Engage as if your life depends on it 13:43
Stick up for others 15:40

I am so grateful for the chance to support you in “figuring things out” whether on your own or with support and structure to guarantee your success.  I’m thrilled you’re committed to cultivating your aliveness in love and sex and that we’re engaged in this conversation.  It is my greatest joy and privilege.  I hope this episode has helped you find new ways to get support and perspective for your love and sex challenges.

If you'd like to talk with me about our working together, you can schedule a consultation at  https://lisenbury.as.me/consultation. Whether you do it on your own or you get help, remember the three keys to creating a change in your relationship: perspective, attention and sustained effort.

You're always invited to ask questions and share your reactions and results from each episode. You can post in the question thread in the private community at http://society.lisenbury.com  or leave us a voicemail at 206-659-9865.

If you want to take the work you’ve done on yourself and the consciousness you’ve worked hard to gain and apply  it to create consistently magnificent relationships in your marriage, with your kids, and beyond, I am here to help.  More fun than therapy, more effective than anything, clients say coaching with me permanently uplevels their love, sex, leadership  and life.&am

Show Notes

“How  can I talk  to  my (aunt/brother-in-law/husband/neighbor) whose views on social  justice/race/health care/women’s rights/LGBTQIA rights  are so very different from mine and  I want to shout?”  In honor of the impending holiday season, todays episode distills some what I’ve observed about how friends - mostly female or nonbinary - deal with ME in my ignorance about privilege around gender, race, religion, sexual orientation, education level, and class.  I never intended to be racist, heteronormative, cisnormative, or classist, but privilege has that effect: it truncates the humanity of those who  have it.  Listen in to learn how to stay engaged when you feel outraged.


This episode spills:

  • The secret to engaging with people who baffle you
  • When we’re very aware of how wrong someone is, how to focus on what's right
  • Why letting go of today’s interaction helps today’s interaction go better
  • Think YOU are not the problem? Think again

And more. 


Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Secret Society on Mighty Networks.


“No one thing changes everything.  We have to be the change today, and we have to stay the change tomorrow.  We have to continue to bring the energy that we want to see in the world. And we have to remain engaged in the conversation."

-Michele Lisenbury Christensen 



"The world is half right and half wrong. But that doesn't mean that half the people are 100% right, and the other half are 100% wrong. It means each one of us individually is 50% right and 50% wrong.Find out what is 50% wrong in yourself, and what is 50% right in your neighbor, and the world moves together again." 

-Carl Jung


Hot Moments in This Episode:
Choose how you show up based on who you want to be 02:08
Self-care for difficult conversations  03:55
Why flipping out won’t bring the change we long to see 05:20
The importance of taking the long view  05:57
Recognize your privilege and use it to be the solution 08:39
Never Condescend  09:09
Listen with curiosity 11:09
Engage as if your life depends on it 13:43
Stick up for others 15:40

I am so grateful for the chance to support you in “figuring things out” whether on your own or with support and structure to guarantee your success.  I’m thrilled you’re committed to cultivating your aliveness in love and sex and that we’re engaged in this conversation.  It is my greatest joy and privilege.  I hope this episode has helped you find new ways to get support and perspective for your love and sex challenges.

If you'd like to talk with me about our working together, you can schedule a consultation at  https://lisenbury.as.me/consultation. Whether you do it on your own or you get help, remember the three keys to creating a change in your relationship: perspective, attention and sustained effort.

You're always invited to ask questions and share your reactions and results from each episode. You can post in the question thread in the private community at http://society.lisenbury.com  or leave us a voicemail at 206-659-9865.

If you want to take the work you’ve done on yourself and the consciousness you’ve worked hard to gain and apply  it to create consistently magnificent relationships in your marriage, with your kids, and beyond, I am here to help.  More fun than therapy, more effective than anything, clients say coaching with me permanently uplevels their love, sex, leadership  and life.&am