The 5 Winning Relationship Strategies

If you listened to my last episode you know I went through the 5 losing communication strategies people often resort to in their relationships.  I promised then to detail the antidotes - the 5 winning relationship strategies that really help us overcome our learned dysfunctional patterns of relating and create healthy, adult connections with our partners.  It’s a practice.  Nobody’s perfect at it, least of all me, but these 5 strategies, as a direction, are like a compass pointing due north - showing us where to turn when we want deeper connection, when we want to be kind, when we want our partner to meet us, and we want to give and receive abundant love and turn-on.

In this episode we’ll cover:

• How to ask for what you really want from your partner
• The best ways to communicate with your partner after a tough interaction
• Mindset and techniques you can use for listening when your partner is speaking to repair
• What it means to empower your partner to succeed with you and why it’s important to your growth as a couple

And more.

“Request.  Don’t complain. And never lose sight of what you really want...The winning approach is to wait to talk to your partner about something UNTIL you can be really rooted in a VISION of what you desire.  Where you’re inviting them into something beautiful.”

-Michele Lisenbury Christensen


Hot Moments in This Episode:

• What to do instead of complaining
• How to know it’s the right time to have difficult conversation
• Three keys for ACTUALLY listening to your partner
• Winning strategy: Help your partner help you
• Easy things you can do to practice “smart generosity”

I wish for you the beautiful and unique experience of feeling held, seen, and understood in your relationship. And I would love to hear about your journey. My wish for you and for our community is that you'll join the conversation over on the Conscious Couples' Circle at society.lisenbury.com.  It's a great place to ask your questions, share your experiences, and join the conversation about creating the love and sex that you deeply desire in ways that evolve you both. That's all happening at society.lisenbury.com. 

Join the conversation by listening, share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples’ Circle on Mighty Networks.

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