Sex.Love.Power.: Sacred Sexuality, Conscious Polarity, and Waking Up In Love
Our pleasure can be the fuel for abundant, sustainable work, service, and play throughout our long lives.
Our sexuality can be a wholesome pillar of our daily experience.
Our marriages can be fueled by desire rather than duty.
Monogamy can be the hottest place on earth.
It’s a confusing time to be a heterosexual, monogamous couple. The love and passion you desire may be more an inner urge than something you really see people around you living. But there are a growing community of devoted couples creating monogamy as a conscious spiritual crucible. There are couples using their marriages to fuel their leadership and service and activism. Welcome to Sex. Love. Power. where we convene the conversations that unlock new possibilities in your life and relationship. I’m your host Michele Lisenbury Christensen. Over the past 26 years, I’ve helped thousands of couples create the love and sex they desire. Kurt and I, in 23 years of marriage and adventures together before that, have suffered, avoided, dared, and triumphed in countless ways. Now, I’m here to help you get more peace, more connection, and more passion in your days and nights, so you’ve got the energy and attention left over to be the change you wish to see in the wider world. Everything you want in love and sex and beyond starts with YOU, and it starts right now. Let’s tend your flame.
Sex.Love.Power.: Sacred Sexuality, Conscious Polarity, and Waking Up In Love
Four Stages of Love
“The day that you wake up, and you realize that you have been had, and the person you’re sleeping with is not the person you fell in love with, that’s the first day of your real marriage.” - James Framo.
In this episode, my husband and I walk you through our journey through the four stages of relationship. From the initial spark of love without knowledge to the mature state of knowing love, we'll share insights into each stage and how they have shaped our 27-year relationship. Whether you're wondering why marriage is so hard or seeking ways to reignite the passion, join us as we delve into the intricacies of navigating these stages and finding grace in each one.
In this episode, you’ll hear about:
- How Kurt and I navigated the four stages of relationships: love without knowledge, knowledge without love, the reckoning, and knowing love.
- Strategies we've used to navigate challenges and conflicts in our 27-year marriage.
- The three components of fostering intimacy and connection beyond the reckoning
- Our experience with embracing imperfections and growing together as individuals and as a couple
- The iterative process of facing yourself and your relationship with honesty and authenticity every day
And more.
“Marriage is a crucible that turns you into who you were meant to be... It's like a rock tumbler making gems beautiful, banging off the rough edges.”
I hope that you feel accompanied and supported, whichever stage of love you’re in now. My wish is that you will continue to be present to the mess and the mystery in the majesty of this wild, alive thing of being human with another human.
RESOURCES OR LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Embracing Pain + Beauty with Special Guest Myra Sack
The Five Winning Relationship Strategies episode
The Five Losing Relationship Strategies episode
How to Stay, When to Go episode
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