Sex.Love.Power.: Sacred Sexuality, Conscious Polarity, and Waking Up In Love
Our pleasure can be the fuel for abundant, sustainable work, service, and play throughout our long lives.
Our sexuality can be a wholesome pillar of our daily experience.
Our marriages can be fueled by desire rather than duty.
Monogamy can be the hottest place on earth.
It’s a confusing time to be a heterosexual, monogamous couple. The love and passion you desire may be more an inner urge than something you really see people around you living. But there are a growing community of devoted couples creating monogamy as a conscious spiritual crucible. There are couples using their marriages to fuel their leadership and service and activism. Welcome to Sex. Love. Power. where we convene the conversations that unlock new possibilities in your life and relationship. I’m your host Michele Lisenbury Christensen. Over the past 26 years, I’ve helped thousands of couples create the love and sex they desire. Kurt and I, in 23 years of marriage and adventures together before that, have suffered, avoided, dared, and triumphed in countless ways. Now, I’m here to help you get more peace, more connection, and more passion in your days and nights, so you’ve got the energy and attention left over to be the change you wish to see in the wider world. Everything you want in love and sex and beyond starts with YOU, and it starts right now. Let’s tend your flame.
Sex.Love.Power.: Sacred Sexuality, Conscious Polarity, and Waking Up In Love
Self-Regulation Toolkit Part 2: Fight or Flight
If you have a nervous system, you need this episode. It's the second part of an accessible and entertaining introduction to your nervous system and the crucial cranial nerve known as the Vagus Nerve.
If you ever:
- react strongly to your partner and want to fight or flee or both
- feel exhausted, at an emotional or energetic level, by your day
- feel like you just need time *alone* but seldom seem to get enough to want to reconnect
You'll learn how to notice what state you're in and discover specific ways to strengthen your vagal response so that, given time and care, you can gladly come back into connection.
As you listen to this episode, you'll hear about:
- Part two of our conversation about your nervous system and how to make the most of it so that you can settle down.
- How the nervous system is used to move ourselves from a frozen state to be able to access a "fight or flight" state and ultimately, to be able to access the most responsive, connected places.
- Why the "fight or flight" response happens and how to recognize it in yourself and what to do when you're in it.
- How the fight response ultimately not only affects your relationship and your love but also damages your bodies AND how YOU can to stimulate the vagus nerve so it will turn on a relaxation response
And more. Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Secret Society on Mighty Networks.
“If you're locked in battle with your partner all the time, it's costing you. It's costing you physical health and longevity to be in that state. So if you think about it, by calling a timeout, or saying, "Let's take a break. We'll come back to this when we're calmer." That is, to your mind, escaping.
- Dr. Jessica Pullins
HOT MOMENTS IN THIS EPISODE:
Recap of part 1 and making the most of your nervous system so you can settle down (01:40)
Ways the nervous system reacts to a perceived threat and how to make the choice that is safest for your body (04:18)
Why even though we may not want to hurt people our nervous system may uncharacteristically act out & do so (06:19)
How recognizing, "Nothing good can come" can save a relationship (08:26)
The harmful cascade of stress chemicals when we are our nervous system is in a state of fight or flight (10:27)
How you can soothe your nervous system on your own by rubbing and pulling on your ears or smoothing your face with your hands (16:16)
Join the conversation by listening, share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples’ Circle on Mighty Networks.
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